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The Kids These Days Won’t Buy In!

“They won’t buy in!” I hear that statement a lot. It is usually used to degrade the athletes. However, it is more of an indictment on the leader, not the athletes. Instead of complaining they won’t buy-in, give them something worth buying into. Kids have not changed! Sure they have more distractions than ever before. They…
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Clarity & Constraints 

I had a cool moment of clarity this past week! Over the last three and a half years, I have been driven to grow my consulting business Kingdom Coaching. I am called and passionate about pouring into coaches. There is a side of business that I wasn’t aware of when I started Kingdom Coaching. I didn’t realize the branding and…
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Behaviors and Standards

Alignment of Expectations and Standards  Two weeks ago I wrote about the importance of personal alignment. Making sure your actions are aligned with your beliefs and values. Last week I wrote about making sure there is clarity and alignment with your standards and expectations. And this week I want to talk about healthy accountability and how critical it is.…
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Aligning Standards & Expectations

Alignment of Expectations and Standards  Last week I wrote about the importance of personal alignment. Making sure your actions are aligned with your beliefs and values. This week I want to dive into making sure there is alignment with your standards and expectations. As a leader, it is paramount that you bring radical clarity to…
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Do you have alignment with what you believe and what you do?

Personal Misalignment Over the next three weeks, I am going to write about alignment. This week I am starting with personal alignment. This is when your beliefs and values are in alignment with your actions. This is also known as integrity. What does it look like to be misaligned? Four Examples There is the obvious…
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The Importance of Reflection

The Importance of Reflection This statement has profoundly impacted me, “We learn from the reflection of the experience, not just the experience.” Reflection is a critical step of learning. When we think about the ‘learning process’, we often just focus on the experience. In general, the steps in the learning process are: Experience Reflection Correction Implementation…
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Simple Steps To Becoming a Better Leader

Do you want to become a more clear thinking, creative, and consistent leader? One who stays out in front of issues and problems? One who avoids always getting caught off guard and being constantly reactionary to everyone and everything? I’m guessing you do. Let me share with you how. Stop. Take out a pen and…
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The Talent Stack

I first heard the idea of talent stacking from Scott Adams. He says “Most people can – with practice –develop a variety of skills that work well together. I call this idea the Talent Stack.” There are two ways to be extraordinary or elite: 1. Be a top 1%er in one area. This is what some might…
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What happens when a strength gets overplayed?

Gold=strengths || Shadow=strengths overplayed that turn to weaknesses Every person has shadows to their gold. Often times, our shadows do more damage than our gold does good. By recognizing our shadows we can take action to avoid our shadows hurting our leadership. I used to have a pattern of zero reflection and all ‘doing’. My gold…
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Why is this harder to do with staff than athletes?

Why is holding your staff accountable so hard to do for many leaders? It is hard because you are, as one author put it, confronting people on their performance and behavior. Accountability doesn’t need to be hard and or super uncomfortable but it HAS to be consistent. Accountability is keeping account of someone’s ability…hence the name…
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The Surest Way To Drive Execution and Gain Trust In Your Program

There is a line of questions that leaders should be asking themselves weekly and maybe even daily: As a leader, am I clear on who I am, what my purpose is, what my values, expectations, and strategies are, and am I bringing clarity to those I lead?  A leader who brings clarity creates an environment where…
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Beware! This Often Happens And We Don’t Even Recognize It

There is not a more insidious problem for leaders than pride. The pride I am talking about is the kind that creeps into our lives that produces an unteachable spirit, arrogance, and an unhealthy focus on self. I have experienced and seen first-hand how pride creep into leadership. So how does someone who is not overtly prideful allow…
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One Simple Way To Communicate To Others ‘You Are Important’ and Win Influence

When was the last time you were with someone and they were totally present with you? They were not looking at their phone, thinking about their next statement, or even worse, thinking about yesterday or tomorrow. The Power of Being Present How did you feel when you were with that person? I’m guessing it felt…
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What does a sprained knee and good performance have in common?

In his book Catalyst, Jonah Berger says “Horrible performance generates action, but average performance generates complacency.” It is the reason why a sprained knee can be worse than blowing a knee out. A sprained knee can give the allusion that you can still do many things on the knee. So over time as you fight…
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The foundation of great, healthy leadership!

Quick question: Do you get your identity FROM the room or do you TAKE IT into the room with you? It is critical that you know your true identity. Who you are… how you’re wired, how you’re gifted, your passions, your internal compass, and spiritual DNA… all of these things together make up your true identity. So why…
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What kind of ‘Classroom’ culture are you creating?

My wife Cherice is a speech therapist in the school district where we live… here in Midlothian Texas. When she is scheduled to do therapy with a student, she will usually go down to their classroom and pull the student out of class. She has made the observation that the teachers that are loud, have…
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Hey Coach, Does Everything Look Like A Nail?

Maslow’s hammer is a mental model that says “if all you have is a hammer, then everything will look like a nail.” Too often a coach has one tool and then uses that tool on everyone and in every situation. For example: Let’s say you have an athlete that is struggling in a certain area.…
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Managing The Shadow

All of us have a shadow or a dark side to our strengths. In athletes, I see two patterns of gold and shadows (These are very general): Pattern 1 1. The young person who is a team player, a hard worker, and conscientious of others, and a coach’s dream. The shadow can be a lack of confidence and…
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The #1 Key To Leading Others!

I am coming to believe more and more that self-awareness is a superpower in leadership. The benefits of knowing your strengths, constraints, your leanings, wirings, giftings, the areas that give you the most trouble, how you come across to others, the things that trip you up, your emotional triggers, the things that fill you and…
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My Journey of Learning With Kingdom Coaching & Coaching DNA

My Journey I started Kingdom Coaching three and a half years ago and wanted to write about what I am learning. Although this will be a different type of email than my normal weekly email, I hope this adds value to you. In 2017 I had a deep sense that I was supposed to work with…
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