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How dirty dishes and my daughter helped change my persective

Todays topic: Gratitude! (I know, pretty creative right… Thanksgiving week:) In April of 2020, during dinner one night, my 15 year old daughter shared with us something she watched on youtube that day. The person on the video said the following statement “What if we lost tomorrow what we failed to give thanks for today?”…
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You will become outdated and get passed up if you don’t evolve

Things evolve and change. Football offenses have evolved from three running backs and a tight end to no running backs and 4 wide outs. Basketball has evolved from a two guards, two forwards and a center to five guards of all different shapes and sizes. Baseball has evolved from pitchers running distance to pitchers training…
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Leadership principles by arguably the best leader ever!

I believe that Jesus gives us an amazing template of what great leadership looks like. This email is not to push my spiritual beliefs on you. I simply want to point out the principles that Jesus used to lead. There are several principles that we can learn from when studying the leadership of Jesus. Jesus recognized…
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The Power of Clarity in Building Trust with Those You Lead!

The most important element to a successful program is trust. Without it, you have no shot to reach your potential. One primary way I see coaches build trust is through clarity. It is critical to your program/organization that you bring great clarity to your people. People want to know where they are headed, why they are going…
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Travel Light

One of my former players was shot and killed Thursday morning. He was an awesome guy. Tough and yet kind & tender at the same time. Humble, gritty, and intense. I turned 48 on the same day he was killed. The older I get the more I catch myself thinking about life, death, and what is…
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Input vs Output

Most people underestimate the impact of the content we consume. Our inputs are more important than our outputs because our inputs directly affect our outputs. But nobody really cares about your input. People only care about your performance or outputs. The music we listen to, the shows we watch, the people we follow on social media, the…
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The Magnetic Draw to Authentic People

I am drawn to authentic people. I think most people are drawn to and recognize when someone is authentic. So what are the characteristics of authentic people? – Authentic people are comfortable in their own skin. – Authentic people are honest in their assessment of themselves. – Authentic people are not afraid to admit when they are wrong or…
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The way to be truly free… so that you can truly live!

Clinging to things prevents us from truly living. When things or people are ‘gotta have’ and not just ‘would like to have’ we stop being free. When a good desire becomes an ultimate desire, we cease to be able to truly live. What are those things that you cling so tightly to you strangle the life…
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Principles of human development!

Short post today… Below are six human development principles that are necessary if you are trying to develop people (your own kids, athletes, coaches, teachers, etc.) Calling out the gold in others. This is telling a person what you see in them. For example…”I love the way you interact with your teammates, they really listen to you.”…
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Is Your Joy and Happiness Always in the Future?

For most of us, our tendency is to make joy and happiness a future thing and not a right-now thing. We believe that if our spouse would ________, we will be happy. If I get _______ in our professional life, we will be happy? If our kids _____________, I will be happy. If I can achieve __________, I will…
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Do people experience you as authentic?

I am drawn to authentic people. I think most people are drawn to and recognize when someone is authentic. So what are the characteristics of authentic people? – Authentic people are comfortable in their own skin. – Authentic people are honest in their assessment of themselves. – Authentic people are not afraid to admit when they are wrong or…
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The #1 Trait To Look For When Hiring

Have you ever played pin the tail on the donkey? It is really hard. You know the general direction of the donkey, but because you are blindfolded, you are extremely handicapped in your quest to get the tail on the donkey. A little like the hiring process. Question: If you had to pick three primary skills/attributes…
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What is the paradox of power and influence?

What is the paradox of power and influence? Influence When a person gets into the coaching profession, it is usually because they want to help develop and shape young people (usually because they were impacted by a coach along the way). As a coach gets started it is usually at a lower-level position. They are…
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What is fear doing to us?

Overview: A leader’s pace. Why such a fast pace? Fear, us, and the great paradox! Our inner life is burning up. We run so fast these days…too much to do and not enough time. Athletic departments are growing, recruiting is getting started earlier and earlier, mental health is at an all-time low, technology has actually created…
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Handling sub-standard behavior in your program

How do you handle sub-standard behavior from your athletes in your program? You will either build trust or destroy trust depending on how you handle these sub-standard behaviors. Last week I wrote about creating a great environment in your program. This stirred up several conversations around the topic of accountability and discipline. One coach said to me…“You…
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The difference between elite and average environments

Having studied and observed programs at all levels, all over the country, I’m seeing one distinct difference in programs. Elite environments are built differently than average environments. Below is a list of comparisons between an elite environment and an average environment: Asking questions vs Giving answers Inspire vs Push Guide vs Drive Empower vs Force…
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One simple discipline to help you maximize and grow in CLARITY!

Short post today. David Perell, entrepreneur and podcaster, tweeted the following statement several weeks ago, “Read to collect the dots, write to connect them”. If there has been one discipline in my life that has helped me more than any other over the last several years it has been writing. Writing has helped me organize and articulate my…
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In case of an emergency, put your mask on first then…

Recently I have been thinking a lot about what we focus on and how that can impact us. My Thoughts The more we focus on ourselves the worse our mental health seems to be getting. Over the last 10-20 years it seems an increasing amount of content (books, podcast, articles) is devoted to loving ourselves and taking care…
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What does olive oil and personal growth have in common?

Transmutation: The action of changing; or the state of being changed into another form. “Grapes must be crushed to make wine. Diamonds form under pressure. Olives are pressed to release oil. Seeds grow in darkness. Whenever you feel crushed, under pressure, pressed, or in darkness, you’re in a powerful place of transformation/transmutation.” Delia I don’t…
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Can You Have Success on the Field/Court If You Don’t Have Elite Gifts?

What seems like a difference in talent often comes down to a difference in focus. Focus turns good performers into great performers. Two keys to focus are saying no to distractions and working on the same problem for an uncommonly long time. Both are simple but not easy.” – Farnam Street Blog I love this quote. High…
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