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The #1 Trait To Look For When Hiring

Have you ever played pin the tail on the donkey? It is really hard. You know the general direction of the donkey, but because you are blindfolded, you are extremely handicapped in your quest to get the tail on the donkey. A little like the hiring process. Question: If you had to pick three primary skills/attributes…
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What is the paradox of power and influence?

What is the paradox of power and influence? Influence When a person gets into the coaching profession, it is usually because they want to help develop and shape young people (usually because they were impacted by a coach along the way). As a coach gets started it is usually at a lower-level position. They are…
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What is fear doing to us?

Overview: A leader’s pace. Why such a fast pace? Fear, us, and the great paradox! Our inner life is burning up. We run so fast these days…too much to do and not enough time. Athletic departments are growing, recruiting is getting started earlier and earlier, mental health is at an all-time low, technology has actually created…
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Handling sub-standard behavior in your program

How do you handle sub-standard behavior from your athletes in your program? You will either build trust or destroy trust depending on how you handle these sub-standard behaviors. Last week I wrote about creating a great environment in your program. This stirred up several conversations around the topic of accountability and discipline. One coach said to me…“You…
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The difference between elite and average environments

Having studied and observed programs at all levels, all over the country, I’m seeing one distinct difference in programs. Elite environments are built differently than average environments. Below is a list of comparisons between an elite environment and an average environment: Asking questions vs Giving answers Inspire vs Push Guide vs Drive Empower vs Force…
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One simple discipline to help you maximize and grow in CLARITY!

Short post today. David Perell, entrepreneur and podcaster, tweeted the following statement several weeks ago, “Read to collect the dots, write to connect them”. If there has been one discipline in my life that has helped me more than any other over the last several years it has been writing. Writing has helped me organize and articulate my…
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In case of an emergency, put your mask on first then…

Recently I have been thinking a lot about what we focus on and how that can impact us. My Thoughts The more we focus on ourselves the worse our mental health seems to be getting. Over the last 10-20 years it seems an increasing amount of content (books, podcast, articles) is devoted to loving ourselves and taking care…
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What does olive oil and personal growth have in common?

Transmutation: The action of changing; or the state of being changed into another form. “Grapes must be crushed to make wine. Diamonds form under pressure. Olives are pressed to release oil. Seeds grow in darkness. Whenever you feel crushed, under pressure, pressed, or in darkness, you’re in a powerful place of transformation/transmutation.” Delia I don’t…
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Can You Have Success on the Field/Court If You Don’t Have Elite Gifts?

What seems like a difference in talent often comes down to a difference in focus. Focus turns good performers into great performers. Two keys to focus are saying no to distractions and working on the same problem for an uncommonly long time. Both are simple but not easy.” – Farnam Street Blog I love this quote. High…
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One Simple Exercise to Make You Feel Like Crud

For many, the summer is a time of recalibration. A time to read or listen to podcasts. A time to grow and learn. Input = Output So with this in mind, I thought it would be a good time to write about how our input equals output. I have seen several quotes getting at this…
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How well do you manage the tensions in your program?

Great leaders navigate the constant tensions that exist in their programs. -The tension between a focus on development and getting results. -The tension between moving fast in recruiting and going slow to be thorough and not make mistakes. -The tension between doing everything possible to create a good culture and not manipulating people. -The tension between…
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Why you should blow up your practice schedule and start from scratch!

First Principles Thinking from first principles is breaking down complicated problems into basic elements and then reassemble them from the ground up. Elon Musk has brought much attention to this idea of thinking from first principles. I first heard about thinking in first principles when Musk was interviewed by Kevin Rose. In 2002 he wanted to send the first…
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The Story That Proved To Me Why It Is So Important To Ask Questions

Questions Wise people ask more questions than unwise. Questions don’t signal ignorance, they signal intelligence. The better the questions you ask, the better answers you will get. Sometimes in order to get to the right question (which will get you to the right answer), you have to ask a lot of questions. When in doubt,…
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One Proven Way To Help Athletes Improve Their Performance

The Pygmalion Effect states that when we raise expectations, performance improves. However, it is not sufficient to just talk about these higher expectations. Mixed Signals The coach gives a big speech about how “we are going to have high and lofty expectations” and then they turn around and by their actions communicate that they, in fact, have low…
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Opportunity Cost and Priorities For Leaders & Coaches

Opportunity Cost and Priorities Opportunity cost is the loss of potential gain from other alternatives when one alternative is chosen. Opportunity cost is primarily used in the world of economics. I want to use it in the world of coaching and leadership for this post…specifically for priorities. In laymen’s terms, opportunity cost is the potential…
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What does bench press have to do with leadership?

A coaching staff’s role is to develop each athlete in the program. An AD’s role is to make sure his/her staff is developing and getting better. Regardless of what industry you are in, developing people has to include high challenge and high support. In order for us (humans) to keep getting better, we must have a…
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The Kids These Days Won’t Buy In!

“They won’t buy in!” I hear that statement a lot. It is usually used to degrade the athletes. However, it is more of an indictment on the leader, not the athletes. Instead of complaining they won’t buy-in, give them something worth buying into. Kids have not changed! Sure they have more distractions than ever before. They…
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Clarity & Constraints 

I had a cool moment of clarity this past week! Over the last three and a half years, I have been driven to grow my consulting business Kingdom Coaching. I am called and passionate about pouring into coaches. There is a side of business that I wasn’t aware of when I started Kingdom Coaching. I didn’t realize the branding and…
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Behaviors and Standards

Alignment of Expectations and Standards  Two weeks ago I wrote about the importance of personal alignment. Making sure your actions are aligned with your beliefs and values. Last week I wrote about making sure there is clarity and alignment with your standards and expectations. And this week I want to talk about healthy accountability and how critical it is.…
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Aligning Standards & Expectations

Alignment of Expectations and Standards  Last week I wrote about the importance of personal alignment. Making sure your actions are aligned with your beliefs and values. This week I want to dive into making sure there is alignment with your standards and expectations. As a leader, it is paramount that you bring radical clarity to…
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